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Welcome back. I’m sharing more details today about the impact unknown neurodiversity can have on individuals and on relationships. It’s important to state that this impact is not inevitable. Unknown neurodiversity doesn’t impact every individual or every relationship. This impact may not be experienced the same by both individuals in a relationship either. It may not be apparent or you may not have had language for some or all of it before.

I know this impact well. I experienced all of these, individually and in my neurodiverse relationship. My partner did not recognise or experience them the same as me or at the same time as me. This has meant we’ve travelled very individual journeys to reverse the impact of unknown neurodiversity in ourselves and in our relationship. That’s not really surprising to me now given we’re so different in a lot of ways!

Take a look at both lists. What do you notice that you haven’t noticed before? What is validating about this list?

The impact of unknown neurodiversity on individual experience may include:

  • Deteriorating wellbeing in all areas
  • Experiencing anger, resentment, grief and anxiety
  • Feeling misunderstood and compromised
  • Surviving life, getting through it, not thriving
  • Distorted sense of self – ‘I don’t know who I am anymore’
  • Social isolation, disconnected from friends/family
  • Loss of confidence/direction/purpose in your life
  • Questioning your sanity – something wrong with you?
  • Overwhelmed and exhausted – though you may still be ‘functioning’
  • Feeling hopeless and powerless to change the present or the future

The impact of unknown neurodiversity on relationship experience may include:

  • Disconnection
  • Blame and judgement, guilt and shame
  • Actual or perceived control/manipulation/demands
  • Misunderstanding and communication breakdown
  • Invalidating each others’ experiences
  • Reduced and unfulfilling intimacy in some or all areas
  • Numerous challenges on a daily basis
  • Hamster wheel of unresolved old and new issues
  • Impacting children and family dynamics
  • Life together feels more and more difficult and unsustainable

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There is good news and with the right step by steps and support, a happy ending too!

The impact of unknown neurodiversity is reversible

There is action you can take right now to begin to reverse this impact.. on you and your relationship.

You can be YOU again and thrive!

I hope this post is validating and hopeful. There is a decision you can make and action you can take.

To get started, book a complimentary call to discuss how private coaching can assist you to make the changes you desire or access support from me and other travel companions right now via Coaching in Community, with transformational and surprisingly fun coaching adventures that support your step by steps to reverse the impact of unknown neurodiversity, be YOU again and flourish – in your relationships and your life.

See you soon,

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Natalie Roberts

Author Natalie Roberts

Natalie Roberts is an award-winning Master Coach and Mentor supporting individuals and couples in neurodiverse relationships in the UK and around the world. She coaches individuals and couples to reverse the impact of unknown neurodiversity and thrive so that they can be true to themselves and feel empowered to make decisions about their present and future that are positive and hopeful.

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