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Welcome to the Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships Podcast, with hosts Natalie Roberts and Heather Parks, busting myths about neurodiverse relationships that we’ve realised aren’t true and that were preventing us from recovering and having the relationships and connection with partners and children that we desperately wanted. We’re here to give you hope that change is possible!

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In this episode we’re busting some of the myths that we read/learnt from professionals when our neurodiverse journey began, including that:

  • we were suffering from a reactive disorder that comes with names of its own
  • we are like we are because of our neurodivergent partners
  • neurodivergence was the problem so nothing could change with the relationship
  • we couldn’t recover if we stayed in the relationship
  • our partners couldn’t change
  • we’d have to change more

Subsequently we learnt that:

  • We could reverse the effects of the reactive disorder/stress we’d been experiencing
  • Our partners were suffering too – we weren’t the only ones experiencing a stressful reaction in the relationship
  • Our inherited relationship models and dynamics were unhealthy and unhelpful
  • We could find ways to meet our own needs without leaving the relationship
  • Our recovery helped to reduce the stress our partners were experiencing
  • We can be more ourselves AND improve our relationship – after all that’s the person they fell in love with!
  • We can create better connection even if our partners aren’t prepared or ready to join is in the work
  • We realised that we needed to learn about relationship dynamics, trauma, wellbeing, communication and so many other things! It’s not all or only about neurodiversity.
  • You have agency to change yourself and the situation that you’re in
  • You can thrive and sparkle and you can do it inside the relationship

Join us in Loving Difference where we support the recovery many of us need from the relentless stress we experience in our lives so that we can begin to cultivate healthy resilience.

What is Loving Difference?

Loving Difference logoWe’re an online membership community bringing together anyone in a neurodiverse relationship who’s looking for new ways to reverse the impact of unknown neurodiversity and thrive in their relationship and life. Loving Difference is hosted by Coaches with experience navigating life with difference.

We guide members to learn about themselves and their loved ones in a safe, non-judgmental community so that we can inspire and encourage each other to love the unconventional and beautiful differences in ourselves and in our homes.

Lots of love,

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Natalie Roberts

Author Natalie Roberts

Natalie Roberts is an award-winning Master Coach and Mentor supporting individuals and couples in neurodiverse relationships in the UK and around the world. She coaches individuals and couples to reverse the impact of unknown neurodiversity and thrive so that they can be true to themselves and feel empowered to make decisions about their present and future that are positive and hopeful.

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