Back with a client story today…
Claire realised that she had stopped meeting up with friends and it had been more than two years since she went to the book club she used to love attending – she’d not even read a book for over a year. She’d given up on these to fit in with her partner who is autistic (formerly referred to as Asperger’s) – he isn’t sociable and couldn’t see the point of discussing books with others, preferring instead to watch TV every evening.
Discovering how far you’ve ventured from yourself takes some getting your head round.
Working out what to do about it is really daunting. You know that any changes you make or even propose will not be welcomed and life as you know it continues relentlessly. The thought of embarking on something that could improve the situation seems impossible and the fallout will be something else to deal with. I know this because it was me.
Being YOU again requires an examination of each area of your life to find out what you have changed or fitted in with, making new decisions and acting on them so that your wellbeing can improve. Gradually you will begin to feel like YOU again, one step at a time. For me, it felt like waking from a coma, coming alive again to myself. Slowly but surely, I found confidence to make essential changes for me to feel whole again and happy.
It can feel like an uphill struggle at times, but I can assure you that the view on the other side of the hill is breathtaking – you simply can’t imagine it when you’re at the bottom looking up.
The hardest step is deciding to put YOU first for a change…and trusting that finding YOU again will also be a positive step for your relationship and your family. It takes courage to step away from the road you’re on in search of a happier one. You may be fearful too, since you are entering new territory and you don’t know what it will do to you or exactly how it’s going to turn out.
You don’t have to take the first step alone.
In coaching with me, whether privately or in community with others, clients learn about themselves and exactly how to make changes that will benefit their wellbeing and their relationship. They start to re-light the embers of their fire within, reconnecting with friends and getting involved in activities that make them happy. Claire re-joined her book group, invited some friends and has even completed a creative writing course to become an author herself!
Book a complimentary call to discuss how private coaching can assist you to make the changes you desire or access support from me and other travel companions via Coaching in Community, in transformational and surprisingly fun coaching adventures that support your step by steps to reverse the impact of unknown neurodiversity, be YOU again and flourish – in your relationships and your life.