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The challenges of being in a neurodiverse relationship can sometimes mean we lose our own direction in life. For some, life can become very ‘samey’.
Where we would like variety, they would like routine. Where we would like excitement, they would like quiet. It feels like cold water is thrown on ideas and plans we suggest…. in the end we stop suggesting…. and then we even stop thinking of them ourselves. This unhealthy habit can leave us feeling empty and without direction because we stop doing the things that make our soul sing.
Our suggestions for sparking life, for injecting some creativity may be anxiety-inducing for partners.
What is life-giving, like oxygen, for us maybe suffocating for them and vice versa.
Planning things to look forward to became a lifeline for me. It started to pull me out of the hole I felt like I had landed in.
They began as simple things…
- A music concert
- A day at the beach with my children
- A meal with a friend I hadn’t seen in a while
Doing these things again was like taking in a deep breath of fresh air. It woke me up. I felt energised and more connected to people. It also sustained me when I was back at home. On the toughest days, having something in the diary to look forward to can make all the difference.
I realised that my partner doesn’t need these kinds of things but I most definitely do. Now I aim to have something to look forward to every month.
What could you arrange? Next time you get an invitation to do something, say YES!
My ‘Embrace & Thrive’ approach can help you remember and get back on track with what you love most. To find out more, book a complimentary call with me today or access support from me and other travel companions right now via Coaching in Community, with transformational and surprisingly fun coaching adventures that support your step by steps to reverse the impact of unknown neurodiversity, be YOU again and flourish – in your relationships and your life.
If you need some oxygen in your life, take a deep breath, plan something small and simple to look forward to and come find some support with that if you’d like some companionship for the journey.
With love and social sparkle…
